Most Important Question of Your Life

If you' re not sure what you want out of life, there is only one question you must ask yourself. 

Everybody want what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

"What do you want out of life?" 

" I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like", A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you've never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? 

 Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how lives turn out.

 Everybody want to have an amazing job and financial independence - but not everyone want to suffer through 60 hour works week, long commutes, paperwork. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.

Because happiness require struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experience for so long before they come roaring back to life.

At the core of all human behaviour, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is made to handle. It is negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with.

People want to start their own business or become financially independent, but you don't end up a successful entrepreneurs unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea of weather will be successful or not.

Everybody want something. And everybody wants something enough. They  just aren't aware of what it is they want, or rather what they want "enough."

Because if you want the benefit of something in life, you have to also want the cost. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand.

But the truth is far less interesting than that:  I thought I wanted something,  but it turns out,I didn't End of story.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory.

This is most simple and basic component of life: Our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggle wisely.